The Secret Solution

A Gift of Love

On July 25^th, 2009, two very precious souls arrived in this world to teach and share love.

Love for themselves, for each other, for their family and for what is.

These babies arrival was planned, according to the calendar and earthly convention, for November 15^th; consequently, they were way early! Way early in terms of ability to survive without medical intervention, which by now, nearly 5 months into their life, has been extensive and included several life saving surgeries.

Still, they struggle and fight to live the life that they planned!

I am not sorry that they chose the mother they did. Her history as a parent of their 16 month old sibling leaves one gnawing at their fingernails for the healthy one; how on earth can she care for two completely helpless, special needs infants? Fortunately, she will have the assistance of home health care professionals for part of the time, but what happens after that?

This is the mother who accompanied her husband to his parents' home, some 10 or 15 miles away from where they were staying, so that he could take a shower before work. That would not be a big deal except that they left the sibling, at that time less than 1 year old, asleep in a porta crib in the living room... back where they stayed.

It is my belief that:

1. each of us as human beings are imperfect.
2. each of us chose the perfect, imperfect human parents, siblings, grandparents for our soul's growth and perfection - and theirs!
3. the energy of "pity" ( either self or others' well-intentioned) especially coupled with the action of "rescue" is the single most destructive and harmful "choice" we loving, well-intentioned equally imperfect beings can make.
4. To believe in these babies' God given talents, strengths and abilities to attract into their life experience all of their soul's needs and wants: to help them more than survive, to help them thrive because of, not in spite of, their circumstances and conditions. To believe in them is to trust that God and His Angels are efforting on their behalf. This is the great gift each of us offer them; the single most constructive and helpful "choices" we humans make on their behalf.

For these babies' parent's sake, they need the opportunity to rise to the occasion. Their soul's volunteered for this role; therefore, they already have everything it takes to succeed. Again, we can best help them by offering faith and trust.

Faith and trust does not mean do nothing. It does mean act on our intellect or inspired guidance, from a space of love and confidence not from emotional worry, doubt, fear or condemnation. Sometimes circumstances and conditions require direct intervention for health and safety. Other times might call for education; however, most often it requires us to shift our energy and allow the perfect unfolding of a higher plan. In the latter case, "declarations" are the most powerful tool available to us in the moment.

It takes "mental judo" to notice worry, doubt and fear thoughts, then, to replace with an appropriate declaration - which is most likely the exact opposite of your worry, doubt or fear thought. For example, when we notice someone in the appearance of distress (and it is not life threatening or dangerous like starving or a mugging or standing in front of an oncoming freight train where action is clearly called for), a valid declaration might be: "Your good is at hand and you experience it now."

This alone will shift the energy and allow God's good and the soul's intentions to work together perfectly. And, if you don't believe God has the power to set in motion all that is necessary to achieve His goals, read back my previous blog: Divine Intervention or Coincidence

With this type of effort on your part, what a great example and powerful healing force you can choose to be.

Each of us are here to learn to love. Learning requires that each of us face experiences and people that seem "unlovable"; they are the ones that teach us the most. We don't learn from what we already know or what is easy.

My mentor, Reverend Kay Hunter, taught me that anytime you see someone "act out destructively" - badly - it comes from their pain. She told me it was a call for love. In my case, it was my then 16 year old daughter. She told me to remember back & visualize her at a time when she was loveable and to hold that image, in place of reacting emotionally, each time she challenged me. I followed her instructions and it worked. Granted, it was not an instant change for my daughter's behavior; however, what was instant was how I felt when she misbehaved.

I then morphed this activity into "visualize their wound". One friend's mother-in-law pushed him over his edge; she was a recent widow living with him and his wife. I asked him to see (visualize) her heart crying. He did and could find the compassion to allow their time together to be pleasant. Once in a state of compassion it is easier to visualize them with their heart smiling again.

In addition to teaching their parents how to parent, my intuition tells me these precious baby girls are key to helping their wounded heart grandmother heal her wounds. Only she can heal her wounds - the rest of us can only be her example and send her love. These baby girls love their parents, their grandparents, their sister and extended family enough to choose their difficult circumstances & conditions so that a miraculous healing can occur. Those of us around them can choose to lead the way!

I am not sorry for these babies circumstances and conditions; I am grateful for their gift and example. At this time, those babies do not see their challenges as bad; it is all they know of life on planet earth. Their souls see these very struggles as a gift that they offer in the spirit of love for love... unless we change the energy around them, with mental judo, they can be conditioned into self-pity and the gift will be transformed into a curse. Please, help them stay in the energy of their gift. Although, maybe their gift is to live a curse...

 

janet lee 

www.BeliefChangeBook.com

www.TheSecretSolution.net

www.apcd-institute.org

www.MasterMindCleanse.com

 

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2009

 

 

Karma

Kuala Lumpur Malaysia can be paradise; like anywhere else it can also feel like the opposite.

Late Saturday afternoon my husband and I walked to church. Everyday here is a beautiful day; some days it rains but the rain doesn't last that long and the weather again is perfect to walk most anywhere we go. Saturday afternoon was beautiful. As we walked we admired the beautiful flowers and trees and wondered how grand some of the older, moss covered buildings must have looked like in their hey day. Just a block short of the church doors a young man, approximately 18 to 20 years old, at our best guess, grabbed my arm just below the elbow, forcefully slid his hand down my forearm and attempted to wrest my cell phone from my hand.

He did not get my cell phone; he did get away.

But did he get away without consequence?

This morning I read in the newspaper of a young man in the US who was arrested attempting to blow up a skyscraper, filled with innocent people, in Dallas, Texas. The article would have me believe that the young man was a victim both of the FBI and the inability to emotionally process, reconcile and move forward having lost his father to divorce and his mother to cancer.

When that young man grabbed my arm I felt incredibly sad because I knew that somewhere in his life this present day "thief "had made decisions that rationalized in his mind that it is right and appropriate for him to take other people's belongings - even through force; somehow, in his mind, he believed that he deserved my cell phone more than I did.

Do the circumstances that led him to make that decision justify and exonerate him from consequences for choices he acts upon?

What then is the value of understanding what leads people to make the choices they make?

Karma certainly shows no compassion; it does not care how hard your life has been. Karma cares only how you reacted to those challenges and difficulties. Nor is karma subject to ACLU, CPS or any human government agency's monitoring. A much higher law is at work: you reap what you sow. Simply put: do good things and good things happen; do bad things and bad things come to you - either way you earned and deserved what happens.

Unfortunately, like in the case of the young man who attepted to steal from me, the consequence will likely be delayed and may even come disguised - he may never recognize it as a consequence of his action. Or, in the case of the young terrorist man in the US if he creates enough commotion and noise, gathers enough "sympathetic support" with his sad story... maybe, he can dillute or delay karma's effect.

In my experience, it is impossible to avoid the reach of karma and that efforts to dillute or delay it only enhance, escalate or increase the inevitable consequence; except, as we are taught in the New Testament, in the case of acceptance, repentance and request for forgiveness.  

Still, forgiveness may not dissolve consequences for one's actions and the results they caused - atonement and restitution are often essential elements of the process. Pay back or pay it forward are often the final steps to fulfill one's karmic debt.

I know this because I live it. Perhaps I am not guilty of stealing someone's cell phone but I did take my grandmother's conditioner without asking permission. I haven't blown up any skyscrapers, nor committed murder but I have intentionally or unintentionally disrupted lives of my loved ones for what in my mind was "just cause" - it felt like I was a "terrorist" to them!

From my experience at the school of hard knocks, insights gained along the way and my co-author's karma reconciliation process comes the next book in our Keep It Simple Series: Karma Change - The Book.

Belief Change - The Book will be available at Barnes & Noble and Amazon.com by November 1st, 2009!

janet lee 

www.AttractYourSoulmate.com

www.thesecretsolution.net

www.apcd-institute.org

www.mastermindcleanse.com

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2009

I Wonder... about Down's Syndrome

God does not make junk.

God is the Creator of everything.

Everything is good or everything has the seed of good within…

Genesis 1:31 “Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good…”

Psalms 104:24, “O Lord how manifold are Your works! In wisdom you have made them all…”

Throughout my life I was taught and embraced these concepts – mostly in church and religious studies but also through life experiences, a.k.a., school of hard knocks.

Consequently, any time I hear the opposite my attention piques and an overpowering need to make sense of incongruence drives me to reach a point of resolution or peace. If everything is good; why, then, does some aspect of our human nature make things or aspects of that everything wrong or bad?

Listening to an audio book (Finding Your True North Star) written by a woman (Martha Beck) who chose to give birth to a child with Down’s Syndrome against the advice and encouragement of highly educated doctors and nurses who informed her that it was wrong or bad to bring a defective child into the world; I pondered what I know about Down’s Syndrome children.

I concluded with a new consideration to ponder. I wonder, is it possible that Down’s Syndrome children are the reincarnation of souls who achieve the ability to transcend Ego and truly live in the NOW. They seem to have mastered the ability to experience wonder and joy in most if not all circumstances.

Could it be that that extra chromosome that produces Down’s Syndrome contains the key to enlightenment?

I cannot say that I have sufficient experience or knowledge to truly draw an accurate conclusion either about reincarnation or Down’s Syndrome; however, I wonder!

janet lee 

www.thesecretsolution.net

www.apcd-institute.org

www.mastermindcleanse.com

 

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2009

 

 

Perspective

Today, as I walked through my least favorite place to walk through in order to reach KLCC, a young man on a motor scooter offered me a ride. I politely declined explaining that I walk for the cardio exercise, wished him a good day and began pondering “perspective”.

Perspective is the uniquely individual, although often clouded by a collective, meaning attached to some thing – person, place, event.

It seemed sad to me that 1 in a 1000 bad people’s behaviors taint our perception of 999.

Most likely this young man was simply being kind; however, I would not take him up on his kindness for fear he planned something cruel, evil and unpleasant. My destination this morning included a meeting with a young man who, not having heard of my experience on the way to meet with him, told me that he worried for my safety as I walk nearly daily in the KLCC area.

He shared with me that a male friend of his, just this past week-end, had been attacked by a group of about 20 young men by a construction site near KLCC. They beat and robbed him. My friend did not want the same thing to happen to me.

It occurred to me that possibly I had been wrong about the purpose of my relating the story of the rescue dog in Thailand. I assumed I was intended to highlight the plight of stray dogs and cats and that there are successful and effective alternative solutions to extermination – funded and staffed rescue centers.

Perhaps the other part of the story, how I attracted Loundry (the stray dog I rescued) energetically and intentionally to bring the story to light is supposed to be shared as well. Actually, I consciously accessed and used energy to help Loundry in very much the same way I keep myself safe as I walk through frightening places.

Any and everybody who wants to has the same ability; unfortunately, many people do not know they have the ability to access and use energy intentionally nor do they understand the how and why to make it work. Thus is born the topic for this blog.

I love metaphors. They are particular useful for explaining the abstract concept of God. I liken God to electricity, everywhere present and all powerful. However, it is when we plug an appliance or tool into a power point, turn it on and cause it to perform work for us that we benefit from its existence.

Similar with God.

In the Loundry experience I made my request for assistance to God, His army of Angels and specifically to St. Francis of Assisi because it is my understanding that it is the purpose of that specific energy to assist animals. Then, I acted expecting results. Similarly, this morning, before my husband left for work, I prepared a fruit shake for the two of us to share. I pulled out my blender, plugged it into the power point, added the ingredients, covered it then pushed the “on” button. Voila, a delicious fruit shake came into being.

All too often when we pray for things we don’t add the ingredients or push the “on” button and if we forget to cover it… we really make a mess. Many times, we don’t have the same sense of expectancy when we pray that we have when we plug into an electrical power point or outlet.

We forget that God energy can only do for us what it can do through us or through others for us. Which is how this blog relates back to this morning’s experience with the man on the motor scooter.

When I began my walk to KLCC I acknowledged that there is the potential of danger. I request Archangel Michael’s protection because that is his energies purpose. I wouldn’t pull a toaster out of the cabinet to make my shake this morning; I choose a blender. So, for intercession on behalf of Loundry and her puppies I request St. Francis’ energetic assistance, for travel I call on St. Christopher, for writing this blog I invite Archangel Gabriel’s assistance and for protection I go to Archangel Michael. Then, I add my ingredients, I visualize a protective force field, a bubble, that emanates from my spine’s energy and walk out expecting safety.

Additionally, I don’t wear my jewelry so that I don’t attract or tempt those who might otherwise be inclined to take those kinds of items. I carry an umbrella which could be perceived as a defensive weapon. The bag I carry is the opposite of a Coach, Louis Vuitton or Gucci; it is actually a tote bag with only what I absolutely need inside.

Most important part of expectancy and working with energy, listen to your intuition, not your brain!

janet lee 

www.thesecretsolution.net

www.apcd-institute.org

www.mastermindcleanse.com

 

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2009

 

 

Wish I Always Remembered "Faith"

May Day 2009, Koh Samui Thailand, a peaceful island village on the coast of the South China Sea. My husband had to check in at work, remotely via laptop and internet; I had to have a “manicure” to fill the time. Fortunately, the night before, I noticed a convenient little shop directly across from the Waterfront Bophut hotel; unfortunately, I learned I didn’t have enough Thai Baht to cover the cost and she doesn’t take American Express or Master Card for that matter. The manicurist, kindly trusted me to “bring it by later, 5pm”; she had to go to the dentist after finishing my manicure…

Upon arrival in Koh Samui we had been advised to avoid the many atm’s located near the hotel. “They swallow your card,” our driver warned. “Use the bank atm, across from the 7/11, so you can recover if necessary.”

So, manicure complete, I headed to the bank atm about half a mile from our hotel.

About half way back to the hotel, I noticed a dog being shooed away from an open air restaurant. It was horrifying to me how thin this obviously a mother dog was. She must have sensed that I was open to help her because she allowed me to pet her. My heart sank to see her ribs and pelvis clearly protruded as her flesh caved around them. “Where can I get her food and water?”

I ran into a nearby convenience store, bought dog food and a bottle of water. It was a hot day and I could not imagine where a stray would get sufficient fresh water to drink.

By the time I returned to the restaurant she was gone. I could not imagine she had gone far assuming she would remain near her puppies, even while searching for food and water. I looked ~30 minutes trying to locate her and her puppies – behind the restaurant, up and down the streets, under the dock, between buildings and in several vacant, grassy lots.

All the while I prayed a request that St. Francis (patron saint of animals) intercede on her and her puppies' behalf. Knowing that I would only be in Koh Samui two more days, I specifically requested that in addition to my ability to locate, feed and water her that she also attract the perfect, kind person who could help her recover, provide her and her puppies love and proper care.

Finally, feeling my shoulders burning, I gave up hunting and returned to the Waterfront Bophut. Certain that I had made a huge mistake leaving her to purchase food and water, I stood on the porch, crying, with my package in hand praying still for the safety and well being of this sweet animal. Then, there she was. I did not see nor hear her come up but she was there.

It truly was a miracle. The place I first saw her was nearly a quarter of a mile away!

An ash tray served as a water bowl with a sprinkling of food nearby. She drank quite a bit of water before she finally ate a small portion of food then napped on the concrete porch of our villa. A short time later, when she awoke, she seemed much “perkier”. I felt encouraged.

Our friends staying in an adjacent villa stopped by and she followed them to their porch. That, too, was encouraging. She laid down as if she belonged there - it seemed a familiar thing to do.

Wanting her to eat and drink more, I called her back to our porch then my husband and I went inside our villa for a short nap. When I awoke, she was gone.

By that time it was 5pm so I returned to the little nail shop across the street to pay my bill. Excitedly, the young woman told me, “a woman guest brought a sick dog to the hotel and Michael took her to the hospital!” I knew instantly I was the woman guest and my angel puppy was the sick dog. It was such a relief to learn she had been taken somewhere that could help her recover. But, “what about her puppies?” I wondered.

When I returned to the hotel I shared the exciting, good news. “You don’t think they will ‘off’ her do you?” my friend asked.

I was terrified to ask at the front desk for fear I would learn I had set this sweet angel puppy dog up to be killed; so, instead, I tossed and turned all night with worry, guilt and remorse.

The next morning I prayed, “God, please give me a sign that this angel puppy dog is safe and being lovingly cared for.”

Then, I headed to the front desk to get a cup of coffee and cup of hot tea to bring back to our Villa. As I turned around, with beverages in hand, a 3” X 8” flyer on a stand read DOG RESCUE CENTER SAMUI http://www.samuidog.org/text3_english.htm. I picked up the flyer and knew instantly that my angel puppy dog was safe!

Thank you St. Francis, my apologies for doubting and not demonstrating my faith!

But what about her babies? My husband told me that from the looks of her, he believed her puppies were old enough to fend for themselves but I wondered. So, once again, I searched but could not locate where she hid them. She had burrs on her nose so I assumed they must be in tall grass. I could tell you where every tall grass was along the way to and from the bank atm!

Sue, one of the owners of the hotel, expressed her concern, too, for the puppy dog and attempted to arrange a taxi for me to visit her at the Rescue Center. Because it was a holiday week-end, there was only one taxi and it would cost me 600 baht to travel there and back. There was a donation box for the Rescue Center situated behind the flyers; I trust completely that they will benefit from that 600 baht.

Still, I did want to learn her fate and well being so checked out their website http://www.samuidog.org/text3_english.htm and emailed them with her photo attached.

...and now (as Paul Harvey would have said) the rest of the story!

Loundry, the dog we rescued, is doing well. She was spayed 2 days ago. She is still very thin but doing well!

Best news yet, she belongs to a family in a nearby town; the family loves her and according to Jill, she was happy to see them when they came to visit her.

She does have an interesting story. Two weeks ago the Rescue Center received a phone call from some tourists in the nearby town where Loundry lived with her owners. The tourists said somebody was trying to poison a momma dog and her NINE puppies.

The rescue center agreed to take them in. They managed to find homes for all nine puppies; then, received a phone call from Loundry's owners. The owners showed up to retrieve her and on the way home she escaped from them; probably looking for her puppies.

The next time the rescue center saw her was when Michael brought her in last week-end.

I am eternally grateful for happy endings and Divine Intervention!

And, I am equally grateful for heightened awareness. Stray dogs and cats are a problem. As intelligent, compassionate human beings it is our responsibility to care for our planet and its inhabitants… including stray dogs and cats.

Through this experience, it occurred to me that although I perceive dogs and cats as pets some people consider them pests. And, some of those people exterminate them the way I do rats, mice, insects… Still others try to solve the problem by rounding them up and moving them to deserted islands. I believe their intentions were good; unfortunately, without food and water, things got ugly.

My take-aways from this experience are:

• Prayer worked and St. Francis’ energy performed above and beyond – thank you God, Angels and St. Francis!

• Everything happens for a reason: perhaps the angel puppy dog was an instrument in a grand plan to call attention to the Rescue Center’s mission as a “success model” and preferable alternative to extermination and/or dumping on a deserted island and/or ignoring a problem. Thank you angel puppy dog!

• Rescue Centers succeed on donations of money, “sweat equity” time and resources. http://www.samuidog.org/text3_english.htm And, the world could use a whole lot more rescue centers as well as responsible pet owners who spay/neuter their pets!!!Thank you volunteers and those of you responsible people who donate,volunteer and take care of all God’s creatures kindly, lovingly and intelligently!

• Finally, from my manicurist I learned, her Thai dog eats spicy Thai food! 

janet lee 

www.thesecretsolution.net • www.apcd-institute.org • www.mastermindcleanse.com 

 © jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2009

Are You a Duck or Are You An Eagle Story

Coincidences can be so much FUN.

 

In recent blogs, as evidence of a higher inspired plan with perfect order – a.k.a. no need to worry about current events - I shared the story of setting a SMART goal to attract a job that met my needs. The moral of the story was that I did not get the job in my time because there was something I had yet to learn. Once learned, I immediately received the SMART goal job on a silver platter and with no effort on my part other than to say “yes”!

 

As part of my employment at an interim (and amazing) company I was required to listen to an audio tape recorded by Wayne Dyer, titled ARE YOU A DUCK OR AN EAGLE. The message that I heard in that tape completely transformed the life path I chose from that moment forward.

 

Today, in an email, I received the following story. It is the effect Wayne Dyer’s message had on a cabbie's life and is well worth reading!

 

“No one can make you serve customers well.
“That's because great service is a choice.
 
“Harvey Mackay, tells a wonderful story about a cab driver that proved this point.
 
“He was waiting in line for a ride at the airport. When a cab pulled up, the first thing Harvey noticed was that the taxi was polished to a bright shine. Smartly dressed in a white shirt, black tie, and freshly pressed black slacks, the cab driver jumped out and rounded the car to open the back passenger door for Harvey .
 
“He handed my friend a laminated card and said: 'I'm Wally, your driver. While I'm loading your bags in the trunk I'd like you to read my mission statement.'
 
“Taken aback, Harvey read the card.
 
“It said: Wally's Mission Statement:
“To get my customers to their destination in the quickest, safest and cheapest way possible in a friendly environment.
 
“This blew Harvey away. Especially when he noticed that the inside of the cab matched the outside. Spotlessly clean!
 
“As he slid behind the wheel, Wally said, 'Would you like a cup of coffee? I have a thermos of regular and one of decaf.'
 
“My friend said jokingly, 'No, I'd prefer a soft drink.'
 
“Wally smiled and said, 'No problem. I have a cooler up front with regular and Diet Coke, water and orange juice.'
 
“Almost stuttering, Harvey said, 'I'll take a Diet Coke.'
 
“Handing him his drink, Wally said, 'If you'd like something to read, I have The Wall Street Journal, Time, Sports Illustrated and USA Today.'
 
“As they were pulling away, Wally handed my friend another laminated card, 'These are the stations I get and the music they play, if you'd like to listen to the radio.'
 
“And as if that weren't enough, Wally told Harvey that he had the air conditioning on and asked if the temperature was comfortable for him.
 
“Then he advised Harvey of the best route to his destination for that time of day. He also let him know that he'd be happy to chat and tell him about some of the sights or, if Harvey preferred, to leave him with his own thoughts.
 
“'Tell me, Wally,' my amazed friend asked the driver, 'have you always served customers like this?'
 
“Wally smiled into the rear view mirror. 'No, not always. In fact, it's only been in the last two years. My first five years driving, I spent most of my time complaining like all the rest of the cabbies do. Then I heard the personal growth guru, Wayne Dyer, on the radio one day.
 
“He had just written a book called You'll See It When You Believe It . Dyer said that if you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you'll rarely disappoint yourself. He said, 'Stop complaining! Differentiate yourself from your competition. Don't be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.''
 
“'That hit me right between the eyes,' said Wally. 'Dyer was really talking about me. I was always quacking and complaining, so I decided to change my attitude and become an eagle. I looked around at the other cabs and their drivers. The cabs were dirty, the drivers were unfriendly, and the customers were unhappy.. So I decided to make some changes. I put in a few at a time. When my customers responded well, I did more.'
 
“'I take it that has paid off for you,' Harvey said.
 
“'It sure has,' Wally replied. 'My first year as an eagle, I doubled my income from the previous year. This year I'll probably quadruple it. You were lucky to get me today. I don't sit at cabstands anymore. My customers call me for appointments on my cell phone or leave a message on my answering machine. If I can't pick them up myself, I get a reliable cabbie friend to do it and I take a piece of the action.'
 
“Wally was phenomenal. He was running a limo service out of a Yellow Cab. I've probably told that story to more than fifty cab drivers over the years, and only two took the idea and ran with it. Whenever I go to their cities, I give them a call. The rest of the drivers quacked like ducks and told me all the reasons they couldn't do any of what I was suggesting.
 
“Wally the Cab Driver made a different choice. He decided to stop quacking like ducks and start soaring like eagles.
  
“How about us?
 
“Smile, and the whole world smiles with you... The ball is in our hands!
 
“A man reaps what he sows. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up... let us do good to all people.
 
“Ducks Quack, Eagles Soar”

 

I believe in God – a Higher Intelligence, Angels and Divine Order because I experienced it; and, I believe what works for me (and Wally) works for everybody!

janet lee 

www.thesecretsolution.net

www.apcd-institute.org

www.mastermindcleanse.com

 

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2009

 

 

 

HELP! I Cannot Find a Job!

HELP! I cannot find a job – there are no jobs for ME! How will I pay the mortgage? Pay for fuel, car payment and maintenance for transportation to even find a job? How will I provide for my family?

If there are no jobs to be had, what can I do??? All I see everywhere is:

·        Too old

·        Over qualified

·        Under qualified

Necessity is the mother of invention: Prior to the Civil War shoes were made by pop & mom shop cobblers and, if you believe fairy tales, elves. Because most soldiers were foot soldiers during the Civil War the demand for shoes fast exceeded the ability for cobblers to supply. That supply and demand predicament inspired the invention of mass, assembly line production of shoes. Soon, cobblers were out of work and cries of “unfair” rang out loud and clear! Reminds me of the current outcry against jobs exported to India or filled by illegal aliens; yet, necessity inspired creativity, innovation then the new products and services to fill a very real void. And created another very real void!

So what about those poor out-of-work cobblers? Insensitivity does not work – how well they make the transition affects all of us. We are interdependent. We are family, we are friends, neighbors, community, church – and most of us, really do care! Witness the benevolent side of hurricanes, tsunamis and other natural disasters. These changing times are a form of natural disaster.

Like today’s challenged work force, the out-of-work cobblers were moms and pops in need of providing food, shelter, transportation, education, etc. for themselves and their families; what happened to them? Remember, these were the days before government assistance. How could they possibly survive, let alone thrive, without big brother rescuing them?

Maybe they did not have government assistance but they did have family, friends, church and community.

Hopefully, they began thinking outside of the BOX!!!

The following are some ideas that might help you, or someone you love and care about, s-t-r-e-t-c-h and move outside the box - to more than just survive these tough times – to THRIVE:

Solve a problem, for example,

·        On TV, I recently saw that a popular actress named Vanessa has introduced her own line of clothes - affordable clothes – each piece priced at $14.

·        Also, on TV and drug store shelves are Ronco produced inventions – inexpensive but useful solutions for everyday annoyances – they make daily tasks a bit easier for consumers and an income for the inventor.

If you sell a lot of inexpensive items you can make a pretty good income. Think about this, there are far more people that cannot afford expensive things than those that can and surprisingly, we have very similar taste and annoyances regardless of ability to pay. Inexpensive items have a broader target market. Both markets have similar tastes and desires.

·        Transportation:  Planes, trains and automobiles were invented by people who wanted to be able to get where they wanted to go quickly and in interesting ways. They solved the problems of mass transportation and getting from here to there faster, safer and in today’s day and age without destroying the environment.

What are the everyday annoyances of transportation in this day and age? What do you do to solve them? Who do you know that might benefit from what you know and do? What other problems have you solved that might benefit others? What are you good at, passionate about, enjoy? How can you help others using these skills? Knowledge and information are the basis of:

·        Writing: blogs, magazine articles, e-books, handbooks, best-seller books

·        Consulting, Coaching and Teaching, Training

·        Internet sales! 

When you think about the things you are really good at and enjoy, what about them could you perfect or invent that might enhance your and others’ enjoyment or ability?  What would it take to make it happen?

·        Baby Einstein and Barney videos came into being because a mother wanted to entertain her infant or child in a way that stimulated and educated them as well.

·        Measuring spoons were probably invented by a cook that wanted to be able to standardize and control how she re-created her favorite recipes producing the same or very similar results every time.

If you can see it, you can be it! If they can do it, you can do it!

What problem do you see and have a new or unique solution that solves it?

·        What are the benefits of your solution?

·        Why should you solve this problem?

·        Who benefits from this solution besides you?

·        Why should you help them solve their problem?  

·        What resources do you need to share your solution with others?

·        What resources do you have?

·        Who can help you get your solution out to the public that benefits from it?

Why should you answer all these questions? The more questions you can ask and answer, even more than those listed above, the more likely you will receive motivation and assistance to make it a reality.

janet lee 

www.thesecretsolution.net

www.apcd-institute.org

www.mastermindcleanse.com

 

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2009

 

Three things you can do NOW to attract your next BEST job!

1.   Thinking of your current job, the one you just left or left you and any jobs you held before or dream of landing: list everything you hated about it on a piece of paper. On a separate piece of paper, list everything you loved about that job.

2.   For each item on your “hate list” add its opposite to the “love list”

3.   Burn (safely) the “hate list”

You just cleared the energy field to attract a job that you “love”!

As mentioned in the previous blog, my son was born with a chronic, potentially fatal illness. We could not believe how long it persisted nor how costly it was even with health insurance coverage. Illnesses we had experienced before lasted two weeks max; Jonathan’s persisted for years. In those years, our insurance was cancelled. Because we were self-employed and his illness was a “pre-existing condition” the only option we could come up with was for me to get a job with a company that provided an HMO.

My first step to employment was to describe my dream job as a “SMART” goal. Next, I sent out resumes and step three was supposed to be get hired! That’s not how it worked for me.

Following many grueling, intense and disappointing interviews, I could not get a position applying my college education. But I did find employment leveraging my experience as a small business owner and a little nepotism.

The job I got did not provide insurance coverage for my son’s pre-existing illness for my first year of employment – they didn’t offer an HMO. It also did not provide other key characteristics of the goal I had written when first seeking employment BUT what it did provide was essential to the path that is now my life’s journey.

Then, seven months into the job I received a phone call, out of the blue, from my college recruiter - would I like to interview for a position with one of the large corporations who had not even considered the resume I sent back in my job hunting days? I said “yes” and cracked the books to brush up on my skills in preparation for what I imagined to be two very intense and thorough interviews. After all this was a large, international corporation!

Interview day arrived. I had appointments with two different recruiters the same day, from the same company. The waiting room was actually very crowded; the competition must be stiff for this position, I surmised. Imagine my surprise when I walked in the door for my interview, prepared to wow to the max with my vast wealth of knowledge on transistors, capacitors and Boolean algebra only to be greeted with a handshake and overt employment seduction. There were no technical questions or tests or second interviews just “how soon can you start” and please pick me over the second, competing recruiter.

After choosing the position I wanted and beginning my new job, I revisited my SMART goal. I was amazed to discover that I had received everything I requested except that my start date was one year, to the day, later than I had listed.

In retrospect, I could see that the time I spent with the interim company opened my eyes and redirected me down a path I continue today. The seeming “detour” to my plan was essential and fit perfectly into a higher plan than I could conceive on my own.

I cannot imagine that had I created the list suggested at the beginning of this blog that I would have avoided the interim job; what I gained from that position was priceless and worth the side trip. I do believe, however, that the very act of deciding what you want, then acting on it sets, the Universe in motion to make it happen. The reason I include my story is to share that sometimes things happen that are not what we asked for but are exactly what we need for some higher purpose, for the long run.

I believe in God – a Higher Intelligence, Angels and Divine Order because I experienced it; and, I believe what works for me works for everybody!

janet lee 

www.thesecretsolution.net

www.apcd-institute.org

www.mastermindcleanse.com

 

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2009

 

 

The End of the World - As We Know It

 The following is from an email I sent my brother. Since then, many people we love and careabout have been affected by the economic downturn... this blog is for all it may benefit.

Tony Robbins tells a story about when he took lessons to drive race cars. Sitting in the passenger seat was an instructor whose sole job was to make sure the student driver, Tony in this case, kept his eyes on the road. Inevitably race cars go into a skid. A STUDENT driver's first, unconscious instinct is to "look at the wall". His second, unconscious instinct is to drive where his eyes are LOOKING - into the wall. A TRAINED driver knows the risk and remains vigilant. When the inevitable skid occurs he recognizes the "panic" emotion as a signal to focus where he WANTS to go, initiating a conscious instinct which activates that unconscious instinct to drive where his eyes are LOOKING which is NOT the wall but, instead, down the road... safely.
 
We may or may not agree on President Obama as the right choice, but he encouraged something very appropriate for these times in his inaugural speech. "Keep our eyes on the horizon" - another way of saying focus on where you want to go not the stormy seas or "the wall". It is a proven technique to survive tough times. NEGATIVE, FEARFUL emotion rocks our boat, causes sea sickness and in my brother’s case high blood pressure.
 
What is the worst that could happen? Go ahead, imagine it and prepare for it even. Find people who have been there done that and more than survived – thrived! “Success models” - there really are many! There is a saying, “out of the ashes of ruin, the phoenix arises” – it is true. When we reach the bottom, somehow we discover the strength, resources and creativity to rise; in the end, many will say, “those hard times were the best thing that ever happened to me.”
 
Uncertainty, unknown imagining is the most difficult and destructive aspect of every economic downturn. So, imagine the worst, plan for it as best you can and then TRUST that GOOD is coming... There have been two extraordinarily frightening and difficult times in my life. One was my son Jonathan's chronic and potentially fatal illness. 1 ½ years into it we lost our health insurance coverage; I imagined the worst, thought only the worst, cried an ocean, likely had blood pressure off the charts because I was so angry, frightened... and yet, what I received were unbelievably, amazing good things. I got to experience the kindness, generosity and compassion of ordinary people for my precious, cute, sweet, innocent little boy and I was forced to go to work at places for which I still, 20 years later, thank God for every day because they bore profoundly obvious, amazing “gifts”. Looking back I can see the hand of an incredibly wise and benevolent Higher Power, something I would never have known or recognized had I not survived the sheer terror of the possibility of not being able to provide Jonathan with health care while facing the possibility that without it, he would certainly die. In fact, I am a better, wiser, stronger person because of that experience. I would not have voluntarily signed up for that experience and I can't say I wish to go through it again because it was traumatic; however, I can honestly say that I can look back and see its value, be grateful and not wish it were different. It was NOT fun but it was GOOD.
 

Regardless of your outcome, the same will be said for you. In five years, looking back, you, too, will see the value of this time and count your blessings. My prayer for you is that you find "the calm amidst the storm", count your blessings even before they arrive and lower your blood pressure because you genuinely have faith and trust that whatever happens you can more than survive, you can THRIVE. YOU can be BETTER for the experience. God energy works for and protects everybody, including YOU.
 
The only people who fail in these difficult times are those who never recognize the good that shows up because they get hung up on what they lost or how it "should be" or how it isn't "fair". Growth comes from new, different and difficult. Look for your good; it IS there!
 
Back to the race car story. You seem very clear on what the wall looks like; now let's get clear on what you WANT instead of what you DON'T WANT. You want an income that provides for yourself, your wife, the kids... sufficient to pay for food, home, extracurricular activities, education, transportation, vacation trips to __ fill in the blank__... get clear on what those things look like to you. Do you want to buy a new home while home prices are low? More reliable transportation? Instead of “I must get my income from ­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­__ fill in the blank __”... Get clear on what you want an income to provide you then release the need for how that income comes to you - for example, you want an income of  $_fill in the blank___/year doing what you love to do legally, morally & ethically. This focus activates the God energy to provide opportunities and choices for your needs to be met. Choices that may or may not include TI but will absolutely, positively comprehend your soul's highest and best good.
 
For the record, I do not have ANY insight into whether or not __ fill in the blank __ will happen. The reason you fear it and I even acknowledge the possibility is strictly based on history and the media. Because it is affecting your health dangerously, I am trying to help you fully comprehend that regardless of whether or not __ fill in the blank___ happens - YOU WILL MORE THAN SURVIVE, YOU WILL THRIVE! Therefore, please, let your mantra be: I more than survive, I thrive - I cannot wait to see what good is coming from this! Repeat this mantra over and over and you will 1) brainwash yourself into believing it 2) lower your blood pressure. I am living proof that this mantra works!!!
 
One last story. Have you watched the movie Cinderella Man? It illustrates the worst of the Great Depression. Russell Crowe's character at the top of his "boxing" game, breaks his dominant "punching" hand, stock market craters with his winnings invested and he subsequently gets a character building life experience. In the end we learn that had he NOT broken his hand and had to strengthen his weaker hand while lifting crates on the dock to provide for his family... he would not have had the strength to win the fight of his life. The moral of the story, what appeared to be the worst stroke of luck was actually the perfect and best luck for GOOD to come to him, his family and a nation in pain... it's an inspirational movie, based on a true story, that still reaches out and affects lives. Far reaching & long lasting GOOD!!!

 

The end of the world? No! As we know it? Yes! I can't wait to see what GOOD comes from this experience...

 

janet lee 

www.thesecretsolution.net

www.apcd-institute.org

www.mastermindcleanse.com

 

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2008

 

 

 

Anatomy of a Decision

Why is it that there are times when we make a decision that we access some innate ability to move heaven and earth to the exclusion of all else, and make it happen; yet, there are other times we make a decision, like quitting smoking, losing weight, working-out at the gym, or ___ and never make it happen... what's different?

Could it be what you tell yourself, in your thoughts (self-talk), leading up to and at the time of a choice – to do or not to do?

Curious, I evaluated each time I can remember, that I made a significant, life changing decision and either succeeded or did not. What I learned:

I actually discovered more successes than I credited myself. There was one time, particularly useful for this blog because I tried to quit smoking for a period of several months before actually quitting – instantaneously and permanently.

When I first made the decision to quit, I tried cutting back so I didn't have to experience those dreaded withdrawal symptoms. That didn't work, I still wanted to smoke as much and as often as before. So, I tried some filter product that worked in four stages to wean me from nicotine addiction gradually; yet, I could still satisfy the physical habit aspect by smoking as often, just getting less nicotine with each inhalation.

I reached step four, final stage and recognized the physical addiction aspect. I had to cut back on how often I smoked to further ease myself into this complete denial aspect of quitting!

This seemed impossible; so, I decided not to smoke the whole cigarette on stage four filters and further wean myself. I made it to two puffs off a stage four filtered cigarette and still I wanted that all powerful, smelly, teeth staining stick of tobacco leaves rolled in paper and lit on fire to suck into my lungs and gunk them up so I could have a momentary high of some sort!

Then, at the young age of 19, my brother died. I was traumatized so of course, I had to smoke cigarettes to get through the experience!

And, without filters to inhale the maximum consolation possible!

Did I mention that I was pregnant? Actually, that I was pregnant was the only reason I had considered to quit. So when my mother called and scolded me with all the terrible things that happen to babies whose momma smoked; I had reason enough to quit. Cold turkey. Coming down off the nicotine high of chain smoking through grief, I threw away my cigarettes and never smoked again.

Why?

Why could I quit, completely and permanently, in an instant when my efforts before failed so miserably?

The disadvantages far outweighed the advantages.

When my mother reminded me of the possible consequences to a baby; she didn't mention possible nor did she sugar coat the images.

She told me every horror story she could dream up to paint an image in my mind of looking down at my bundle of joy and knowing that I caused a horrible atrocity to her because I couldn't say no to a stupid, all powerful, smelly, teeth staining stick of tobacco leaves rolled in paper and lit on fire to suck into my lungs, gunk them up AND cross the placenta so both my baby and I could have a momentary high of some sort that absolutely, positively would for certain hurt my baby real bad!

I could not live with that image or that outcome. I had incentive to quit in an instant!

After my daughter made her entry into the world, unscarred and unscathed by her mother's smoking through the first trimester, or two, through pregnancy, I was faced with the decision: to smoke again or not smoke again.

The information about second hand smoke's effect on those around smokers was beginning to come to light. Somehow, that just didn't seem to be incentive enough after all my baby girl was healthy. Still, I didn't really want to start again. So, I created the mental image of a powerful, smelly, teeth staining stick of tobacco leaves, rolled in paper and lit on fire to suck into my lungs and gunk them up so I could have a momentary high of some sort. I thought about how bad it made my clothes smell and other people would notice and think I smelled bad. I imagined how ugly my teeth would look when they yellowed.

The clincher for me, however, was the image of myself as a slave to a SMALL, smelly, teeth staining stick of tobacco leaves rolled in paper and lit on fire to suck into my lungs and gunk it up so I could have a momentary high of some sort AND the only reason it had power of me was because I forgot how powerful I am, how powerful choice is - so gave it away to the cigarettes, ignorance and the advertising media.

I did not like that image of myself. Nor did I want my daughter to have reason to hold that image of me in her mind!

Consequently, I didn't and do not smoke. I did not suffer withdrawal symptoms nor did I crave them ever again.

My father quit because he had heart attacks, in an instant from sheer will power. He asked me once if I wished could smoke again. He shared with me that every day he thought about and wished to smoke a cigarette; he said he didn't give in to the wish because he knew he wouldn't be able to quit again.

This was a huge insight for me. Not only did I not long to resume smoking; anytime I ever thought of a cigarette, the image of a powerful, smelly, teeth staining stick of tobacco leaves rolled in paper and lit on fire to suck into my lungs and gunk them up so I could have a momentary high of some sort came to mind and that was enough to NOT waste any time with the prospect.

I realized I don't think about it and it is no longer an option or consideration!

This is powerful information – a duplicate-able and repeatable and transferable process to break addiction instantly and forever!

Tony Robbins calls it get leverage!

1. Imagine all the bad things about what you don't want to do anymore and awfulize them even more.

2. Create an image of the worst thing that could ever happen because of this terrible thing.

3. Visualize the worst that could happen come true! Play it like a movie in your mind. What will you see? What will you hear? How will you feel?

4. With absolute certainty decide you no longer will settle for being its slave; YOU master it.

I did not consciously hold a vision of what I wanted from not smoking I just knew for sure that I did not want the horrible outcome I created. Today, when applying the process to other aspects of my life, I add in a vision of what I do want. Often, it is the opposite: non stinky clothes, white teeth, a healthy baby girl and power over that smelly, teeth staining stick of tobacco leaves rolled in paper and lit on fire that at best can only give a momentary high of some sort!

It works!

 

janet lee 

www.thesecretsolution.net

www.mastermindcleanse.com

www.apcd-institute.org