On July 25th, 2009, two very precious souls
arrived in this world to teach and share love.
Love for themselves, for each other, for their family and
for what is.
These babies arrival was planned, according to the
calendar and earthly convention, for November 15th; consequently,
they were way early! Way early in
terms of ability to survive without medical intervention, which by now, nearly
5 months into their life, has been extensive and included several life saving
surgeries.
Still, they struggle and fight to live the life that they planned!
I am not sorry that they chose the mother they did. Her
history as a parent of their 16 month old sibling leaves one gnawing at their
fingernails for the healthy one; how on earth can she care for two completely
helpless, special needs infants? Fortunately, she will have the assistance of
home health care professionals for part of the time, but what happens after
that?
This is the mother who accompanied her husband to his
parents' home, some 10 or 15 miles away from where they were staying, so that
he could take a shower before work. That would not be a big deal except that
they left the sibling, at that time less than 1 year old, asleep in a porta
crib in the living room... back where they stayed.
It is my belief that:
- each
of us as human beings are imperfect.
- each
of us chose the perfect, imperfect human parents, siblings, grandparents for
our soul's growth and perfection - and theirs!
- the
energy of "pity" ( either self or others' well-intentioned)
especially coupled with the action of "rescue" is the single most
destructive and harmful "choice" we loving, well-intentioned equally
imperfect beings can make.
- To
believe in these babies' God given talents, strengths and abilities to attract
into their life experience all of their soul's needs and wants: to help them
more than survive, to help them thrive because of, not in spite of,
their circumstances and conditions. To believe in them is to trust that God and
His Angels are efforting on their
behalf. This is the great gift each of us offer them; the single most
constructive and helpful "choices" we humans make on their behalf.
For these babies' parent's sake, they need the opportunity
to rise to the occasion. Their soul's volunteered for this role; therefore,
they already have everything it takes to succeed. Again, we can best help them
by offering faith and trust.
Faith
and trust does not mean do nothing. It
does mean act on our intellect or inspired guidance, from a space of love and
confidence not from emotional worry,
doubt, fear or condemnation. Sometimes circumstances and conditions require
direct intervention for health and safety. Other times might call for
education; however, most often it requires us
to shift our energy and allow the perfect
unfolding of a higher plan. In the latter case, "declarations" are
the most powerful tool available to us in the moment.
It takes
"mental judo" to notice worry, doubt and fear thoughts, then, to replace
with an appropriate declaration - which is most likely the exact opposite of
your worry, doubt or fear thought. For example, when we
notice someone in the appearance of distress (and it is not life threatening or
dangerous like starving or a mugging or standing in front of an oncoming
freight train where action is clearly
called for), a valid declaration might be: "Your good is at hand and you
experience it now."
This alone will shift the energy and allow God's good and
the soul's intentions to work together perfectly. And, if you don't believe God
has the power to set in motion all that is necessary to achieve His goals, read
back my previous blog: Divine Intervention or Coincidence
With this type of effort on your part, what a great
example and powerful healing force you can choose to be.
Each
of us are here to learn to love. Learning
requires that each of us face experiences and people that seem "unlovable"; they are the ones that teach us the
most. We don't learn from what we already know or what is easy.
My mentor, Reverend Kay Hunter, taught me that anytime you see
someone "act out destructively" - badly - it comes from their pain.
She told me it was a call for love. In my case, it was my then 16 year old
daughter. She told me to remember back & visualize her at a time when she was
loveable and to hold that image, in place of reacting emotionally, each time
she challenged me. I followed her instructions and it worked. Granted, it was
not an instant change for my daughter's behavior; however, what was instant was
how I felt when she misbehaved.
I then morphed this activity into "visualize their wound".
One friend's mother-in-law pushed him over his edge; she was a recent widow
living with him and his wife. I asked him to see (visualize) her heart crying.
He did and could find the compassion to allow their time together to be
pleasant. Once in a state of compassion it is easier to visualize them with
their heart smiling again.
In addition to teaching their parents how to parent, my intuition tells me
these precious baby girls are key to helping their wounded heart grandmother
heal her wounds. Only she can heal her wounds - the rest of us can only be her
example and send her love. These baby girls love their parents, their
grandparents, their sister and extended family enough to choose their difficult
circumstances & conditions so that a miraculous healing can occur. Those of
us around them can choose to lead the way!
I am not sorry for these babies circumstances and
conditions; I am grateful for their gift and example. At this time, those
babies do not see their challenges as bad; it is all they know of life on
planet earth. Their souls see these very struggles as a gift that they offer in
the spirit of love for love... unless we change the energy around them, with
mental judo, they can be conditioned into
self-pity and the gift will be transformed into a curse. Please, help them stay
in the energy of their gift. Although, maybe their gift is to live a curse...
janet
lee
© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2009